Reflections on Love ~ Love is not Self-Seeking

Keeping little stones is a lot of work. An around-the-clock vigil that can break even the strongest. My daily walk with my two precious stones robs me of time. Their heaviness burdens my arms, leaving me sore and spent. Empty and drained.

“Take time for you” I hear. “Do the things you love. Take care of yourself.” A little me time.

” . . . Love is not self-seeking . . .” 1 Cor. 13:5 (NIV)

The words creep up on me, sneaking into view. I would rather pretend I don’t see them. How easy to place priority on myself. It requires no sacrifice or convincing; the guilt justified, after all, in a worthy cause. But in the end, Me time only leaves me wanting more of me. My own agenda. My own pastimes. My own space. Any refreshment it provides is only a temporary refill; my cup drained within hours.

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Reflections on Love ~ Love is not Jealous

Jealousy & envy–both original sins. We got kicked out of paradise for it . . . for wanting something we could not have. Engrained disobedience that started in the garden.

Love does not envy. But I do. Almost daily. Her abilities, his freedom, their bank account. Since our precious stones came along I’m often most jealous of a person I love deeply. Is that possible? To be envious of such an amazing gift? To wish I had his life? The ease of a day in a quiet office, plowing through piles of work without interruption. No one making a mess I just cleaned up. A day without tears. He said he’d be home by 5:15, and he walks in at 5:23. Selfishly I cringe. Eight extra minutes of solitude for him. Eight fewer for me. What dirty greed.

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Reflections on Love ~ Love is Patient

Love endures with patience and serenity, love is kind and thoughtful…” 1 Cor. 13:4 (AMP)

Love is patient. I am not. My love is imperfect, a gaping hole in the core of my make-up.

FL-55Patience requires joyful slowness–waiting without agitation. Waiting for little feet to catch up or tiny teeth to chew food. All day long I wait while my little gems process their worlds. I expect they will respond with the same speed I would. How foolish. Continue reading